If the parent and child shout together then situation remains, the same without any enhancements. It will be like beating around the bush which has no outcome ever. Moreover, it affects child’s trustworthiness and emotional security (parent-child bonding) in the long term.
So it should be understood that children are not hitting, biting, pinching or kicking intentionally to upset parents, siblings or others but because of their own newness in the world. Children belonging to age group of 36 month or more, are likely to get aggressive.
If child is having frequent aggression issues and hits people around revengefully which reflects in his temperament, then following strategies can be explored: -
If parent resolves the issue in soft, non-violent way, child will probably follow the same example. He should be spoken about the issue softly but immediately. Parents must not waste time or follow "Let it go" approach considering that this is his first time or he is too young to understand. For example:The child hits his younger sibling without any reason, for the first time, so it should be addressed immediately. He needs to apologise and take time-out of 3 to 5 minutes to calm down and think about his mistake, Later, parents can discuss with him making him realise what wrong he has done. He should be aware of his actions and their consequences.
Hugs and kisses are good to calm down an angry child. According to Sensory Integration, hugs provide deep pressure to body which is a great way of relaxing the child.Use of weighted blankets or vests can also be helpful for ADHD,Sensory Processing Disorders, Autism Spectrum Disorder.Most of the times anger are co-morbid with these conditions.
Turning off your phone, especially if it's 'smart', is one of the easiest ways for most of us to significantly bump up our attention and focus on the present. Mobile phones are addiction today and empower much of human brain. We create distance from family to establish and maintain relations with distant people. So parents need to understand that what is important currently and in future is in front of their eyes and not on screen of smart phones. If parents cannot pay more attention to child it’s okay, but ignorance of existence of child is not tolerable. That hurts child emotionally and mentally. Building good childhood memories is parent’s responsibility so think and act.
Many times kids are very energetic and need some source to channelize their energies. If this does not happen they become aggressive and difficult to be handled. Physical activities support them to self-regulate physically, mentally and emotionally.
For example, doing trampoline activities at a home or going out to parks can be beneficial. Moreover, riding a bike or playing obstacle course of pillows or soft toys can be done at home. This also helps them in exploring new tasks and learning through doing. Physical activities generate and activate brain cells that support in cognitive and perceptual development. Additionally, doing activities with play mates or friends increases socialisation and social skills.
action. 9 months onwards children are able to understand “NO”, so this gesture can be used to show resistance. Paediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp suggests a “clap-growl” technique. She says if child has bitten her little brother. “Give a good sharp clap,” and then extend your index finger, saying “No bite! “Parent might look away for a second and repeat the stern look again, waving his or her finger and saying “No bite. Gestures to remain quiet (keeping finger on lips) or thumbs-down when he is shouting or yelling will help to develop child’s understanding of emotions and his doings. Showing thumb-up when he does something positive will help child to be confident and feel-good. Teaching different types of gestures such as hand-shake, clapping, waving will to a toddler is common during this age.