Sunday, 7 April 2013

ACTIVE REASONS FOR ANGER AMONG CHILDREN AND THEIR RESOLUTIONS




         
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According to statics (British Association of Anger management) out of every four children, one child experiences his parent’s divorce before sixteen, 75% of working mothers think that their child is emotionally unstable since they are full-time workers and 87% parents shout on their children frequently, due to stress. Children playing a lot of video games and watching excessive television can suffer from passive aggressive behaviours. Anger is an inherent behaviour however above statics reflect, various external factors acting as the catalyst for anger behaviours. Anger leads to aggressive and hostile conduct among children
  

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 Goal: The main aim of parent-child relationship should be to identify child’s needs, priorities and inner feelings, building self-esteem through a positive outlook and possible environmental modifications.

Masked emotions and conditions causing anger: Sometimes there are other emotions hidden beneath child’s anger, which he is unable to show cast directly and anger is used as a cover up. Many times emotions such as  envy, loneliness, low self -esteem, anxiety, fear of failure in exams, excessive television watching foster aggression among teens or condition like Oppositional Deficient Disorder (ODD) lead to hostile and violent behaviours.

Anger Chart
    Anger Chart of Emotions: Parents can have a chart of different emotions hanging in Child’s room. A child can indicate his feeling and emotions from picture chart description. This gives them picture description as well as vocabulary to express and understand the different feeling.




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Colouring as Vent of Emotions (This activity is good for younger ones): This activity can be helping people vent their feelings and frustrations, as well as other emotions through colouring. An angry or frustrated child may scribble sheet only with dark shades without caring for margins or boundaries to release his aggression however this is an excellent way of self–expression and channelize energies in a constructive direction.


Communication is essential
Communication: Interaction plays a major role in child’s behaviour. The impact of the dysfunctional family can be one of the major reasons for anger. Parents, who take out frustration on their children, prove to be poor role models. Adults should be empathetic listeners and provide reassurances through physical as well as talking means (as mentioned above) and it should be ensured that right question is asked, at the right time which is essential for behaviour shaping. E.g.-You seems to be upset since came from school, can I help? Instead, what happened to you and why aren’t you doing your homework?



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Drawing as a Remedy: Drawing thoughts allows the child to think and reconstruct thoughts. Parents may ask them to label their feelings in bubble pictures or draw situation which made them annoyed. This even helps the child to vent out his frustration as he might draw person's picture having horns or bad looking face with whom he is angry. This acts a cure for individual to describe his feelings on paper as well as help’s parents to understand sensitivity towards the particular situation.


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Þ    Log Book (Recordkeeping): Parents may keep a log of thoughts or emotions child is going through. It may be due to hunger, lack of schedule, and ill health or particular lesson in a week that irritates or makes the child anxious. This will help to identify and track out possible triggers, situations or if there had been the consistency of days in a week. (E.g.: child gets too much worried/anxious on Tuesdays because of particular lesson on time -table, which he does not like.) 


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Activities Demanding Concentration: Parents can encourage the child to play Crossword, Poker, Chess, Kerplunk, or Sudoku, whenever feeling anxious or diversion from an angry situation is important.

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Activities Demanding Physical Involvement: Children can be encouraged for running, jumping, sports or recreational tasks which involve physical energy loss (Additionally helps in calming down) on a daily basis. This not only helps to maintain body’s equilibrium (Physical & Mental) but also leads to successful accomplishment of a particular task. Marathon for charity causes (E.g., Cancer causes) or Fundraising will help a child improve self-esteem and intrinsic motivation. Opportunities should be created for the child to exercise skills in the community through leisure experiences.


 Writing Own Thoughts:Children can be involved in writing out thoughts in the journal. Writing things in a systematic sequence would help to clarify.How am I feeling (Feelings: anxious, sad, irritated, angry): _Why am I having this feeling (Reasoning): __________What can I do to come out of this Problem (Solution: Talk to parents, think positively, deep breath) ______This sequence can help child resolve problem and understand his actual emotion!!