PROBLEM SOLVING BEHAVIOR







This remedy works in few simple steps, however, requires patience, strategic organisation, motivation and understanding for both parents as well as the child. Problem Solving Approach is a common procedure which can act as Self-Intervention strategy to control higher levels of Anger.

 It raises awareness of child in regard to his own temperament, emotion and behaviour and how to resolve conflicts within him and outside world.

However, all defined remedies work on the principle of Will Power. It is very important that child should realise his misbehaviour in order to rectify it and parents should coordinate with him, without blaming or tagging him for bad behaviour. 



Problem Solving Behaviour involves to:

IDENTIFICATION OF TARGET BEHAVIOR LEADING TO LABEL THE CHILD AS AGGRESSIVE:

  • Having excessive pattern of overreacting
  •  Lying
  • Low Self Esteem
  • Being impulsive in particular situation
  • Getting aggravated by provocative situations
  •  Complaining about students treating him or her badly
  • On lookouts of Annoyance (Negative Bias)
  • Blaming others for their Behaviour (Blame Game)
    Parents should work collaboratively with children to identify target behaviour that is labelling the child to be aggressive.

    SET A PLAN:
    Set a plan to eliminate such behaviour.

  • Try to develop attitude of tolerance and respect,
  • Use of Positive Self Statements (E.g.: Chill Out! exhale away anger, Ignore them, Stop Shouting etc)  
  • Actively listening to others,
  • Being a buddy (Helping out bullied peer),
  • Ignoring Distractions and Provocations
  • Sharing ideas and views in classroom
  • Using e-mail support that is chat rooms for confidentiality
  • Use sense of humour to defuse situations of provocation
    Parents should monitor and record the child’s behaviour and each time there is misbehaviour in a day it should be counted. Every time child gets angry he should be prompted with increasing number of counts of a day. Child should be rewarded if number of counts of misbehaviour decrease on a particular day. This positive reinforcement will encourage him to control his habit of losing temper frequently. If your child refuses to follow positive self Statements or Self Talk Statements just offer an extra incentive for trying it. Sometimes children need extra care and attention along with reward to follow particular instruction (Extra Time Playing in Playground, Buying new set of Clothes, Treat party on weekend).
    Obstacles are very common during implementation of plan but parents and teachers also have to follow never Give up Spirit!!

    WORKING DURING THE EVENT:
    Now, it’s time to practice and apply the above plan at the time of Provocation or Situation that may Trigger Anger. One has to maintain calm and nice attitude when location of Aggression (School, Club, Community, Peer Group) otherwise previous hard work will go in vain!! Use of Positive Statements like:

  • This is Challenge so I just need to relax
  • I don’t have to take words seriously
  • Easy Go!!
  • Yes, I’m doing great, See No anger
  • I m cool right now and in control!!
    REVIEW LEFT BEHIND ANGER:
    Now, it’s time to celebrate and review the behaviour!!
    Take a Deep Breathe and as you have conquered your anger!!
    Mostly children will have problems in getting adapted to habits but using Problem solving approach one can Control his Impulses with the course of time.
    Satisfaction and Self Confidence improves if the child tries to follow above rules. Strive or attempt to achieve target is essential. Parents may motivate children by saying (“You did your best, that’s OK.” This wasn’t so difficult, isn’t it”, It’s essential that you keep on following this behaviour, it suits you!!)

     

    CHANGES REQUIRED WITHIN ENVIRONMENT :( HOME AND CLASSROOM)


  • Use of Flash Cards with Positive Self Statements written on them
  • Sticky Notes (I will not Get angry!, I’m a cool Guy!!, I’m at my Best!!, This is a Challenge for me!!), in Each Copy reminding the child not to lose temper in Class.
  • Teachers or parents may give child Smiley face each time he Controls his Difficult Temperament
  • Making Child Sit with Polite and Quiet attitude rather than with excessively talkative and Impulsive Kids (Good Neighbour)
  • Parents may beforehand understand his requirements for Books and Pencils and other things so that there is no creation of Situations leading to Annoyance (Annoyance Avoidance Circumstances).


    ADDITIONAL CHALLENGES:


  • If possible parents may involve with child them Topics of disagreement and have Debated with him or her to watch Level of Controlled Anger.
  • Movies showing Dissimilarity to child’s thoughts and then parents may have the debate with him.



 


Anger and its initiation among children



                                                                   

Anger is a normal emotion like other emotions however excessive increase in its intensity and incidence can lead to discomfort to the person as well as surrounding environment. If duration of anger increases it can lead to adverse effects in vast majority of people relating to their health, physically and mentally.

It is assumed that anger occurs as a consequence of frustration, rejection, or unfairness. It either evolves from social or environmental influences which act as common triggers. Anger has other side of coin as well, where it can be used as strong emotion to achieve desired goal.

The expression of anger and effort to retaliate is more common among the boys than girls because, they predispose emotionally more frequently as compared to girls. They are less able to control their emotions as match up to girls, without help of caregivers. Moreover, expressions of anger and willingness to strike back initiates during infancy which can lead to violence form during adulthood. 

As these children step forward in their toddler hood, they counter problems leading to conflict, peer fighting and being more impulsive then other children. Temper tantrums may lead to difficulty for parents in dealing with such children. Most of the times the reason for anger could be demand of some desired object or toy.

Moreover, rising towards preschool years, the demanding factor may decline with negotiation over objects and repeated instructions from teacher's and parent's side among girls.  However, boys are more physically aggressive than girls. Girls even have characteristics of physical bullying which they hide and retaliate in another form. They specialize in harming other person's social relationship and reputation. 

As these children grow towards early school years they might show unkindness, rude behaviours and aggression towards their peer group, parents, teachers as well as cruelty towards animals.

Anger in adolescence could be a serious problem which should be dealt very carefully by parents. Primarily, parents should become very good listeners as well as communicators before they handle their child’s sensitive issues of aggression. Anger among children should be managed carefully as its serious forms could result in hostility and violence. It’s essential to understand situations which could lead to trigger annoyance within the child. Moreover, if such situation arises then he or she should be cooled off at that moment by using relaxation technique.

Secondly, exposure to violence on television can cause increases in aggression. The emergence of violent video games has raised new questions regarding the effects of violent media. Exposure to violent media increases aggressive behaviour through one of three primary domains (arousal, cognition, and affect). Thus, parenting style should include awareness of subject’s children are watching through media.

Anger is among the most powerful risk factors for school violence especially the sudden rage. Students who do not learn to manage their anger are at-risk for aggression and even the violent explosive behaviour. The expression of anger can take many forms. Some include venting, resisting, seeking revenge, expressing dislike, avoiding the source of anger & seeking help.